Check this post 7 Motivational Mistakes You Don’t Want to Make (And How to Avoid Them) from Freestyle Mind:
Motivation is everything. Motivation is what gets you up in the morning, what gives you the force to accomplish your goals and enjoy the results. Yet sometimes you don’t have enough of it, so you procrastinate instead of doing the things that you know you should do.
Below are seven motivational mistakes you don’t want to make, and how to avoid them:
- Over-thinking. The first motivational mistake is thinking too much about outcomes and about what could go wrong. Questions like “What would happen if I do this?” and “But I can’t do that without x” can easily prevent you from doing the real thing.
Solution: stop worrying about outcomes and realize that questioning outcomes will get you nowhere. Your brain is only making excuses because it likes to defend the status quo, but you can be smarter and beat its own game by getting started now.
- Not getting started. Sometimes you know that what you should do is right, but inside your head it feels overwhelming to do the whole thing.
Solution: this sensation happens when you transition from a situation of comfort to one of less comfort. For example you may feel the idea of going out for a run overwhelming if you were just taking a nap in your couch. The solution is to avoid thinking at the whole thing, but rather to take the first step and allow the rest to follow. It’s easier to get your shoes on and just get out of the door, so do that and don’t worry about what will happen next. It’s as simple as that, just get started.
- Forgetting. You have all the intentions of the world to stop your bad addiction, but somehow one day you wake up and forget about it, and you get back to your old habit. Of course you realize that what you’re doing is totally wrong, but you also think that it’s too late to go back.
Solution: first, it’s never too late to correct your behaviors. As soon as you realize that you’re doing something wrong, you’re given the opportunity to correct and learn from the situation. Be grateful and learn from it, and know that you’ll do better next time.
- Trying too hard. If you try to run for one straight hour despite not having done a workout for months, you’ll either fail or get injured. Same goes for every other activity, if you try to do too much, you’ll feel overwhelmed and it’ll be hard to stick to your commitment.
Solution: start slow. Run for 5 minutes a day instead of 30. Read 5 pages per day instead of 50. There’s no need to rush initially. Go slow and upgrade only when it feels right, and you’ll go a long way.
- Having too much things to do. Sometimes you want to take drastic changes in your life. You commit to change everything but after a few days you feel tired and without energy. One thing a time and after a week you are back to how you were before making the commitment.
Solution: unfortunately we can’t manage to change many things at once. Instead of trying to do many things at the same time, write down a list of everything you want to do, then take one item from the list and work on it until it’s done.
- Being discouraged from early failures. Perhaps sometimes you would like to do something, but your brain keeps reminding you that many years ago you failed doing something similar, so you decide that you’re probably not gonna make it this time, so it’s better to avoid the risk of failing again in the first place.
Solution: you’re not your past, and failure is your friend. Take your previous failure as a valuable learning experience, and who cares if you’re not gonna make it this time either? Next time you’ll be a better person with more experience and better chances. Remember that no-one got it right the first time, and the secret of success is to keep trying until you succeed.
- Changing your mind for the next big thing. How many times have you started to do something, only to discover that there’s something else more exciting that you could do instead?
Solution: this feeling usually happens after the initial phase of excitement, or after the first obstacle. Don’t feel bad about it, you’re close to succeeding, you just have to keep going. Write you’re next big thing on your some day list, and then get back to it once you finished what you’re doing now.
Still reading? Go, get something done now. Seriously, there’s nothing better that the current moment for doing the things that you know you need to do, and you’re the only one that can make them happen.